Communicate with babies and bond securely

The art of non-verbal communication requires us to properly decipher our babies' signals. When can babies begin to understand us? How do we communicate with such a cute little dwarf?

“My child doesn't speak yet! How am I supposed to talk to him? ”Said a mother who wondered why her three-year-old son couldn't speak yet. A tragic misunderstanding: who should he learn to speak from, if not from you and those closest to you?

Fortunately, most parents instinctively know how to communicate with their children, even with the baby. Most mothers are even masters of non-verbal communication.

Whoever leans over the stroller usually puts on a radiant smile and says encouraging, friendly words to the baby - which the baby does not understand, but the meaning of which it instinctively grasps: "I perceive you, I am happy about you, me mean it well with you! ”Thereupon the baby puts on a big smile and joyfully kicks his little legs.

Body contact and non-verbal communication

Because of his helplessness and neediness, the infant demands attention and physical contact. That is why it is important to always be fully focused on the subject while breastfeeding, feeding and other care activities, not unfocused and half-hearted, but with eye contact, safe and tender touch. "Man becomes self through you ”is a famous quote from Martin Buber, which expresses the vital importance of secure attachment in early childhood. Only through a loving, attentive counterpart can the baby feel, perceive, feel loved and thus develop basic trust.

React, speak and act promptly and consistently

It is also important to react immediately when the baby manifests itself, especially if you cannot be there immediately. You should give the baby friendly feedback that you have noticed it and that the respective need will be satisfied in an appropriate time. This is how the baby learns that it can rely on its caregiver.

Conversations while diapering

Describing what you are doing or what you are about to do will give your child a sense of security. It feels addressed personally and experiences your words like an exciting story. Your baby may tune in to you, be more patient and focused, and, as a result, begin to cooperate. Nursing activities should be moments of intimate togetherness that brings joy. Of course, they can hold something in their hands while doing this, which stimulates their play instinct and makes it easier for them to keep calm.

Babies need time to themselves

Babies love nothing more than the company of their close caregivers. If they do not get enough contact, they try to use all available methods to demand it. Babies saturated with love and attention, however, can learn more easily to be busy on their own at times. That is also good for them, because they do not want to be constantly "sprinkled". They need enough time and rest to observe and explore their surroundings, to exercise their little fingers and legs and much more. It is enough for them to know: "There is someone, I am not alone!"

Conversations while cooking, cleaning, etc.

Even if the baby sling is a wonderful alternative, you cannot carry your child around with you all the time. Often times, you also need your hands free to perform necessary tasks. Babies usually resist when you want to lay them down. However, this is not a reason to give up your plan: tell your baby what you are going to do and place him or her in a safe place, for example on a blanket on the floor, where he can have eye contact with you. And now tell him again exciting stories: what you are doing, how fine the food will taste that you are preparing now, how important it is that, thanks to Baby's cooperation, you can make good progress with this activity, etc. It is even better if you sing to it too. Make it a ritual that your baby will enjoy. But don't strain their patience too much: they want to be lifted up every now and then and know that you will see to their needs or simply receive the necessary caresses.

Maria Neuberger-Schmidt

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